Why Friendship Is The GOAT Of Love
There’s a lot of chatter about romantic love. People go on, and on AND ON about it. How and where to find it, how to keep it, pruning it, nurturing it, getting it back, losing it, recognising its understanding it, managing it, portraying it, etc. There are movies, books, seminars, podcasts, ministries, and social media threads about it. I will admit, I am a proud romance connoisseur; books, movies, real-life gushing, I absolutely enjoy all of it (you should see my romance novel collection. I’m shy for myself) However, what I really want to talk about my favourite love ever. The love between friends. The GOAT of love.
In the hierarchy of love, here is how it goes if you ask me (and you did dear, you are on my blog)
- Romantic love – the head bitch in charge, Everyone rates and want this bad babe, she’s highly sought after with many cheap and close imitations.
- Parental/filial love – the honorary mention. The obligatory chairperson. By force attendance. If it doesn’t exist, everyone judges all involved and so it must be performed, effusively.
- Friendship love – The real G, the underdog. Ever ignored, forever underrated. My GOAT
Romantic love has so many variables and the most irritating is “the spark”. People have to find this “spark” and maintain the “spark” for the love to be valid. If someone loses “the spark” then the other person has to manage with the loss of this love. Too many margins for error. You also act like an idiot and you can’t help yourself. Things you wouldn’t normally do, you’re suddenly doing. How is this meant to be a good thing? Why do we celebrate temporary insanity? Why are we happy to promote bizarre behaviour. I am not trying to de-campaign romantic love but let us be honest. In black and white, this thing is madness. At best, an illness. Fair, if you are lucky enough (and that’s another issue, it’s one million percent a luck-based thing) to get it absolutely right it is amazing allegedly)
Up next parental/filial love. The most by force babe there is. First of all, do you really have a choice? The person was brought into the world by you or takes care of you when you cannot. Please. You cannot but love, or at least act like you do. Parents are nosy and children are evil but you can’t throw them away because people will judge you so you are stuck there, writing bad poems and declaring very very dramatic emotions.
Now the GOAT. Love between friends. The modest, humble queen, unrecognised but steady in her duty. The thing with friends is that you pick each other, unlike another option I won’t shame here (parental/filial. You don’t need a spark (romance, catch your sub) and more importantly, it’s steady and open. Friends are more likely to know your real face; parents and kids rarely do and romance has you needing to put your best foot forward. Friends pick up the slack of parents, kids and lovers. They know your shame, and will often share in it. Friends make you laugh the loudest and deepest, drag you into your worst scrapes and help create the magic that makes the mundane interesting. Think of the most shameful thing you’ve ever done. Would you rather tell your parents, kids, lover or best friend? EXACTLY
With these few points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince you that love between friends is the best kind of love. Romance has excessive PR and familial love has a strong by-force element. I know some people will want to mention God’s love but don’t be annoying, that’s not what we are talking about.
What is your favourite thing about your friendships? Are you going to try and argue for romantic or familial love? I’d love to hear your weak ass arguments.