You Can Make Your Own Magic
Christmas is getting pretty close but unfortunately, there is barely any “Christmas cheer” in the air. It’s not unwarranted as 2020 has been the ghettooooooo. COVID has wreaked unimaginable havoc across the globe, killing millions of people and affecting the entire planet. Every single person in the world has felt and is still feeling some effect of the virus as we try to figure out how to keep ourselves safe and continue to provide for ourselves and our dependents as the world has changed.
Apart from the immediate and long term health risks faced by millions of people, a huge fallout of the pandemic has been social and economic unrest. I think everyone being forced to stay home and rely on social services meant that we were all able to see just how shitty a lot of our governments are, especially within third world countries. The gaping holes in safety nets were made evident, and there was IMMENSE anger; more protests and heightened insecurity. Then there were job losses. Millions of breadwinners; from top executives to daily labourers lost their source of income and charitable organisations including religious organisations received way less than they normally would. On top of all of this, women have been hit particularly hard. Reports on increased domestic abuse and gender-based violence as well as increased burdens on working mums (who now also have to keep up with their kids’ e-learning) have been heartbreaking to read.
Basically, there has been very little to smile about this year. It’s been hard and painful and has really had me thinking, particularly over the last few days, about what I am in control of, and what I can do to create happiness for myself. But let me set some context first.
When I was a child, it seems like excitement was always around the corner. My favourite tv programmes, new books, play dates, extracurricular activities, birthday parties, and trips seemed to be a constant presence in my life. Holidays seemed even better with more activities, however as I’ve gotten older, it seems like my life is less… interesting, and other than figuring out how to make a living, I have spent a silly amount of time wondering when things get more exciting. Also, like very many people, my childhood is remembered by me as an idyllic series of events, and to some extent, I have been trying to get that feeling back.
Now we can get to the gist of this actual blog post (hopefully I have’t lost you guys). I realised that those memories and that excitement, was only possible because my parents stayed on job. I had all of that excitement and fun because my parents were invested in making sure I had fun, and more importantly, tired me out. They needed me to be too worn out at the end of the say to stress them with childish exuberance. Now as an adult, that falls to me. Like a regular olojukokoro (greedy guts), I started thinking of major things that require immense capital; international travel, new wardrobe, etc. Lol. Nonsense.
I am now encouraging myself to create excitement and whimsy, and joy in my life by simply doing the groundwork. Very few things just “happen” you know. Life is not a movie and excitement takes work, Plan hangouts with friends, at places you don’t go to every single time. Plan the Christmas get together; create the spreadsheet organising who is bringing what meal or drinks, organise the games and movies to watch, and create the music playlist. Get intentional about having new experiences, talking to different people, and save towards the “big amazing thing”. It could be a staycation or a trip to a different state or county nearby via night bus. If you don’t decide to do it, the likelihood of something fantastic happening is slim to none dears. Again please don’t laugh but my mind was honestly blown when I realised all the amazing memories I have only happened because my parents were doing all the heavy lifting. So now it falls to me. Honestly, the more I write on this blog, the more work I seem to find for myself to do. For someone who claims to be lazy, I seem to keep finding more work for myself.
Anyway guys, so that’s it. If you want magic, surprise and excitement, you’re going to have to create it. Disappointing dears, but true. So I wish you the best of luck as we all try to create whimsy and excitement in our lives (well, if that’s what you’re looking for, nothing is by force dears). You cannot control a great many things but the things you can, you should.
Do you worry your life is boring? If you were to create whimsy or excitement in your life what would that look like to you – budget friendly and budget notwithstanding.